Holy Family Church

Serving Nutley and Belleville

28 Brookline Avenue
Nutley, NJ 07110
Office: (973) 667-0026
Fax: (973) 661-1714

Dear friend

The parish community of Holy Family offers you our heartfelt condolences. We hope to be present to you as you journey through this painful period.

At this difficult time, we gather together to remember a life, to celebrate that life, and to express our belief in the resurrection. In collective prayer, we share feelings of loss and seek comfort in the tender embrace of God.

There are three formal opportunities to gather immediately following a death. The VIGIL affords time to focus on interconnection as family and friends reach out, recalling the life of the deceased and mourning his/her passing. During the FUNERAL LITURGY (Mass), we celebrate the new life of the beloved as our sustaining faith in the resurrection of Christ is reinforced. Finally, the RITE OF COMMITTAL (burial) is a reminder of immorality with its’ constant assurance of life after death in the kingdom of God.

And so, in the midst of sorrow, there is hope. The belief that death is not the end but a beginning ensures that our loved ones pass through death to a place of perfect peace with Christ. In addition, we are comforted by the knowledge that even though death separates us now, we will be reunited in eternal life.
Our thoughts and prayers are continually with you.

The Priests of Holy Family Parish

Funeral Liturgy

The Funeral Mass especially expresses our faith in Christ’s victory over death and our share in that resurrection. It does so through prayers and blessing, readings and songs, rituals and symbols. Participation in the Mass by family and close friends is welcomed and, for some, proves to be a comfort. Should you wish to be involved, the following suggestions, illuminate ways in which your family can personalize the rites.


At the beginning of the liturgy, after the casket has been sprinkled with holy water, a white pall (cover) is draped over it. This cloth symbolizes our life in Christ by recalling the white garment given at Baptism. Family members may wish to lay this lovingly in place.


A symbol of Christian life may be carried in the procession by a family member or friend and placed on the casket when it reaches the front of the Church. This may be a cross as a sign of our unity with the crucified and risen Christ; a Bible, signifying fidelity to the Word of God; or another appropriate symbol.


The words of Sacred Scripture bring comfort because they initiate the healing process. Family members may choose one reading from the Old Testament and one reading from the New Testament, which in some way echoes the loved one’s life of faith. These selections may be read by family or friends if they desire to do so.


Family members or friends may bring forward the offerings of bread and wine. When indicated after the General Intercessions, these gifts are carried up to the priest from a table in the front of the church.


Music affects our sensibilities and enhances our prayer. It creates an inspiring atmosphere that expresses our beliefs. Family members are encouraged to choose songs that reflect the Risen Christ’s love and constant care for all. Hymns that are personal favorites may also be appropriate.

If you wish to participate, prayerfully consider how and to what extent your family is able to take a role at this difficult time. We will assist you when we meet, address concerns and answer questions

<em>The selections for Scripture and music follows:</em>

THE FIRST READING (From the Old Testament)

Choose one.

A Reading from the Book of JOB (19:1, 23-27)

I know that my Redeemer lives.

Job answered and said: Oh, would that my words were written down! Would that they were inscribed in a record: That with an iron chisel and with lead they were cut in the rock forever! But as for me, I know that my Vindicator lives, and that he will at last stand forth upon the dust; whom I myself shall see: my own eyes, not another’s, shall behold him, and from my flesh I shall see God; my inmost being is consumed with longing.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the Book of WISDOM (3:1-9)

The souls of the just are in the hand of God.

The souls of the just are in the hand of God, and no torment shall touch them. They seemed, in the view of the foolish, to be dead; and their passing away was thought an affliction and their going forth from us, utter destruction. But they are in peace. For if before men, indeed, they be punished, yet is their hope full of immortality; chastised a little, they shall be greatly blessed, because God tried them and found them worthy of himself. As gold in the furnace, he proved them, and as sacrificial offerings he took them to himself. In the time of their visitation they shall shine, and shall dart about as sparks through stubble; they shall judge nations and rule over peoples, and the Lord shall be their King forever. Those who trust in him shall understand truth, and the faithful shall abide with him in love; because grace and mercy are with his holy ones, and his care is with his elect.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the Book of ISAIAH (25:6a, 7-9)

The Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces.

On this mountain the Lord of hosts will provide for all peoples. On this mountain he will destroy the veil that veils all peoples, the web that is woven over all nations; he will destroy death forever. The Lord God will wipe away the tears from all faces; the reproach of his people he will remove from the whole earth; for the Lord has spoken.

On that day it will be said: “Behold our God, to whom we looked to save us! This is the Lords for whom we looked; let us rejoice and be glad that he has saved us!”


A Reading of the Book of ECCLESIASTES (3:1-13)

There is an appropriate time for everything.

There is a season for everything, a time for every occupation under heaven: A time for giving birth, a time for dying; a time for planting, a time for uprooting what has been planted. A time for killing, a time for healing; a time for knocking down, a time for building. A time for tears, a time for laughter; a time for mourning, a time for dancing. A time for searching, a time for losing; a time for keeping, a time for discarding. A time for tearing, a time for sewing; a time for keeping silent, a time for speaking. A time for loving, a time for hating; a time for war, a time for peace. What do people gain from the efforts they make? I contemplate the task that God gives humanity to labor at. All that he does is apt for its time; but although he has given us an awareness of the passage of time, we can grasp neither the beginning nor the end of what God does.

I know there is no happiness for a human being, except in pleasure and enjoyment through life. And when we eat and drink and find happiness in all our achievements, this is a gift from God.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God

THE SECOND READING (From the New Testament)

A Reading from the Letter of St. Paul to the ROMANS (8:31b-35, 37-39)

Neither death nor life can separate us from the love of God

If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son but handed him over for us all, how will he not also give us everything else along with him? Who will bring a charge against God’s chosen ones? It is God who acquits us. Who will condemn? Is it Christ Jesus who died, rather, was raised, who also is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us.

What will separate us from the love of Christ? Will anguish, or distress, or persecution, or famine or nakedness, or peril, or the sword? No, in all these things we conquer overwhelmingly through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus or Lord.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the Letter of St. Paul to the PHILIPPIANS (3:20-21)

Jesus will transfigure our mortal bodies to be like his glorious body.

Our citizenship is in heave, and from it we also await a savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. He will change our lowly body to conform with his glorified body by the power that enables him also to bring all things into subjection to himself.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the Second Letter of St. Paul to TIMOTHY (4:6-8)

From now on, the crown of righteousness awaits me.

The time of my departure is at hand. I have competed well; I have finished the race; I have kept the faith. From now on, the crown of righteousness awaits me, which the Lord, the just judge, will award me on that day, and not only to me, but all who have longed for appearance.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the Letter of St. Paul to the Romans  (14:7-12)

Whether alive or dead, we belong to the Lord.

None of us lives as his own master and none of us dies as his own master. While we live we are responsible to the Lord, and when we die we die as his servants. Both in life and in death we are the Lord’s. That is why Christ died and came to life again, that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living. We shall all have to appear before the judgment seat of God, It is written, “as surely as I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bend before me and every tongue shall give praise to God.”

Every one of us will have to give an account of himself before God.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the Letter of St. Paul to the THESSALONIANS  (4:13-18)

We shall stay with the Lord forever.

We do not want you to be unaware, brothers (and sisters), about those who have fallen asleep, so that you may not grieve like the rest, who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose, so too will God, through Jesus, bring with him those who have fallen asleep.

Indeed, we tell you this, on the word of the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will surely not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself, with a word of command, with the voice of an archangel and with the trumpet of God, will come down from heaven, and the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. Thus we shall always be with the Lord. Therefore, console one another with these words.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the First Book of John (3:1-2)

We shall see God as he really is.

See what love the Father has bestowed on us that we may be called the children of God. Yet so we are. The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

Beloved, we are God’s children now; what we shall be has not yet been revealed. We do know that when it is revealed we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God.

A Reading from the Book of REVELATION (14:13)

Happy are those who die in the Lord.

I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write this: blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.”

“Yes,” said the Spirit, “let them find rest from their labors, for their works accompany them,”

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God


A Reading from the Book of REVELATION  (21:1-5A, 6B-7)

There will be no more death.

I saw a new heaven and a new earth. The former heaven and the former earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. I also saw the holy city, a new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband, I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, God’s dwelling is with the human race. He will dwell with them and they will be his people and God himself will always be with them as their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there shall be no more death or mourning, wailing or pain, for the old order has passed away.”

The one who sat on the throne said, “Behold, I make all things new. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give a gift from the spring of life-giving water. The victor will inherit these gifts, and I shall be his/her God, and he/she will be my child.”

The Word of the Lord. Thanks be to God

Music Selections (indicate up to 4 hymns on form)





All I Ask of You…P
+All You on Earth Rejoice and Sing…G  R
Amazing Grace…P    R
A Te Signor  (Ital)…C
Andro’ Vederla un Di  (Ital)…R
Ave Maria…P
Ave Verum (Mozart)…P  C
Because He Lives…P  C
Be Not Afraid…G  P
Blest Are They…P  R
Cast They Burden (Mendelssohn)…P  C
Come to Me…P  C
Come unto Him  (from  “Messiah”)
Earthen Vessels…C
Eat this Bread…C
Eternal Father, Strong to Save…MS
Eye Has not Seen…P  C
+ For All the Saints…G  R
Go in Peace…R
Here I Am, Lord…G  P
His Eye Is on the Sparrow…C  R
Hosea…G  P
How Great Thou Art…P  R
I Am the Bread of Life…G  C  R
I Heard the Voice of Jesus…G  P  R
I Know that My Redeemer Lives…R
In the Garden…P  R
In Remembrance of Me…C
It Is Well with My Soul…P  R
Lift High the Cross…G   R
Like a Shepherd…P    C
Lord, You Have Come to the Seashore…P  C
My Jesus, I Love Thee…P   C
O Holy Mary…P
On Eagle’s Wings…P   R
Only in God Is My Soul at Rest…C
Pan de Vida   (Eng/Span)…C
Panis Angelicus…C
Power of the Cross…P   C   R
Prayer of St. Francis (Eng /Ital )…P   C   R
Precious Lord, Take My Hand…C
Resta con Noi (Ital)…C   R
Risuscito’ (Ital) Resucito’ (Span)…G  R
Sing of Christ, Proclaim His Glory
(Ode to Joy)…G R
T’Adoriam Hostia Divina (Ital)…C
Take and Eat…C
The King of Love, My Shepherd Is…C
+The Strife Is O’er…G   R
Thine Is the Glory (Mendelssohn)…R
This Day God Gives Me
(Morning Has Broken)…G
We Walk by Faith…R
We Shall Rise Again (Young)…R
We Will Rise Again (Haas)…P  C
+Ye Watchers, and Ye Holy Ones…R
You Are Mine…P  C
Be Merciful, O Lord…Ps 51
Be with Me, Lord …Ps 91
Glorify the Lord…Ps 34
My Soul Is Longing…Ps 131
Taste and See…Ps 34
The Cry of the Poor…Ps 34
The Lord Is My Shepherd…Ps 23
The Lord Is My Light…Ps 27
To You, O Lord…Ps 25
Yes, I Shall Arise…various psalms combined
Jerusalem, My Happy Home…G  R
Jerusalem, My Destiny…R
Laudate Dominum (Mozart)…P   C

My brothers and sisters, we believe that
all the ties of friendship and affection
which knit us as one throughout our lives
do not unravel with death

Order of Christian Funerals

Please take the time to fill out this short form for funerals at Holy Family so we can best organize the liturgy for your loved one.

Parish Staff at Holy Family Church
Rev. Joseph A. Ferraro, Pastor
Rev. Mauro Primavera, Parochial Vicar
Rev. Francesco Donnarumma, Parochial Vicar
Rev. Anthony Palombo, Parochial Vicar
Lynn Falduto, Parish Secretary